I support people who are working through the loss of a beloved person, pet, or life circumstance and are ready to find their new normal in a way that honours the loss. And at the same time, helps them move through all the emotions, thoughts, and experiences that are so normal in grief, with a newfound permission to be as they are, experience grace. I am their partner the healing process so that they can recover a sense of safety, trust in their own intuition, and clarity as they navigate the later phases of the grief journey.
The picture on the left is of me with my Maggie
A little about me…
I am the younger sibling to my sister Lisa who passed away in October 2022
I’m a Grief Coach, Grief Educator and Corporate Speaker. My grief journey started when I was 8yrs old, when my Grandad passed away, then when I was 16yrs when my Nan passed away. I’ve had several losses from the first at 8, and most recently, the 6yr cancer treatment journey of my sister, Lisa, with her passing in October 2022. I was Lisa’s darkest hours buddy, in the literally and figurative sense. Lisa resided in my home country of England and I reside in the US, 2am for Lisa is 9pm for me….she always knew she could call and I’d be there for her. We’d nitter natter, pass the time, watch the sunrise from her hospital room, shop (for needed and wanted items), talk the heavy end of life things, and all the lovely mundane everyday things.
Lisa was and still is my “skin and blister”, if you know Cockney rhyming slang, skin and blister rhymes with sister. We were in this life together, being only 18 months apart in living and we became the same age in our early 20’s for life experiences, exchanging who would experience it first.
Through detours in my life I came to the path of Life Coaching. I’d experienced the effects of what looking forward does when you are effectively coached and learn tools and skills that you do not have, and polish the ones you do have. I want to take you on your journey of moving forward in your life…especially when even looking forward feels hard, impossible, maybe even unwanted, in the shadow of your loss.
We will find the area that is the easiest (note I’m not using the word easy) for you to start. I have found analogies a great place to see how you can apply things from that “easier” area and apply somewhere less easy. Are you a runner – we’ll chat about the mile you’re in, shoes and hill-ugh-yep-hills. It might be puppies, baking, sports. I will include levity, and also hold you accountable…no you won’t get in trouble with me if you don’t do your homework; we’ll chat about why it was not possible-there are insights there.
Where you are is where I will meet you, I will meet you with curiosity for your life’s journey thus far, I want to hear stories of your person’s, and the secondary losses-the ones we might not know are considered losses and have grief attached to them-a career pivot, empty nesting, loss of community, building a new community. I’ve made lots of pivots and many of them solo: I came to the US for college and returned again for my career. Over the years I have an amazing community that I curated, the type of community that will drop everything for “that” phone call, or to receive a baked good.
I look forward to the privilege of hearing you.
The pictures to the left, Lisa, me and my Maggie, Lisa & I, my grandparents.
If you notice the use of both English and US spelling and grammar, well spotted, my grammatical and spelling brain resides in both countries
You may have also spotted that I use past and present tense for my loved ones who have passed, that is how I see things in my grief, both ways
Find me on the Grief Support Center website and directory, along with all the other amazing services they provide
